Recently, I have watched T.V drama on “ARY digital” with the title “Khuda mera bhi hai” meaning “God is mine too”. The subject was acceptance of eunuch as a child and a citizen. Most of the civilized countries have no issues in this regard, people with this gender are living a satisfied life there but in Asia, this gender is not treated as they deserve. We have a discriminatory attitude towards them. There was an era when they have respectful status in the palaces of Mughal emperors.
In our society, a lot of people want to hear this sentence at the time of delivery “congratulations, it is a baby boy”, there are few who are satisfied with a baby girl but situation worsens when it is the third gender. Most of the parents refuse to accept such a child right after the birth. They think that it is shameful to accept them and society will make fun of this incident. People assume such parents as unhealthy in a way that they are unable to give birth to a boy or a girl.
This is a tradition since centuries in South Asia; many illiterate people blame mothers for the birth of a girl or a eunuch. They also praise the mother for a baby boy. People have no concern with science and research; they have their sayings, stereotypes, and customs to follow. It is not only with those who are living in remote areas but many so-called civilized and highly educated minds do not want to accept this reality. These children are mostly given to a “Guru” (an old transgender taking care of such gender). The problem starts from this stage; they are being spoiled and thrown away as a waste for their whole life.
Gurus have a tradition to train such children for dance and singing. This training has no concern with perfection it is just for the sake of fun. When these children grow up, they dance and sing in streets and on several occasions. Once, it was a tradition to call them at weddings and birthdays. Many people think that their prayers and blessings are pure and will be accepted soon, so they called them at time of birth of a baby boy. This tradition is rare these days and eunuchs have mostly become beggars. You can observe many of them with makeup and with ladies’ outfits at almost every traffic signal. They have a different style of begging, normally they keep blessing you until you gave them some money but it should be a big currency, they are not contented with coins. Many times, I witnessed that they throw the charity back if they are not happy with the amount. There are many who still dance and earn their living but a lot of them are involved in crimes and unethical activities. It is obvious, such ignored and discarded people can easily be trapped and used by criminals. Hence, they are now involved in so many other illegal activities.
Problem is the recognition of such children in our society, parents who dare to accept such children are often humiliated by others. They would make fun of them for being supportive of the eunuchs. These children are being treated as aliens, humiliated in our society. No parents like them to play with their children or be their friends. Though’ there is an appropriate word to call them i.e. “ Khwaja Sara” which was basically a title for them back in the Mughal dynasty. But, they are being called with different abusive names like “Khusra”, “Na-Mard”, “Heejra”, “Chakka” and many more. Their school and college fellows make fun of them without any reason and they are not supposed to react against such behavior and are demanded to bear the bullying silently.
Although we observe some change in our society that people are educating their minds in this regard but still there is a lot to do. It is such a pity this gender was never considered officially until recently when they were finally acknowledged as lawful citizens and can now apply for National Identity card.Eunuchs are now aware of their rights and protested several times for their demands.
The T.V Show that I mentioned above took a brave and bold step towards a selfless society and awareness. They motivated people to come forward and accept all the realities attached to this creation of God. They are not being thrown away from anywhere; they are as real as we are. Acceptance will make them beneficial for them and for society as well. They have a mind and feel like others; they can be a creative one, worker, sales rep., businessman, teacher, researcher, even manager and much more. All we need is a change in our perspectives. Once again, well-done team ARY Digital.