Actually, our brought up is a little bit complicated and tricky in South Asia, parents put their incomplete desires to their children in shape of toys or fun based activities. Children learn and absorb from their surroundings. Whatever parents provide them, it made up their minds accordingly. Our incomplete desires or unachieved goals are like we want to be a doctor, singer, architect or engineer but circumstances lead us to be a banker, teacher or a 9 to 5 employee . So we made up our mind to complete this ambition in our children. As parents, we manipulate our children to promote their interest according to our will. These activities draw the attention of a raw mind of a growing kid and later they became keen to this behavior.
Well, I am not saying that these are not good activities; sometime it is necessary but not always. My concern is that we make them restricted within few things and set patterns. I think that is the reason in third world, that thoughts are stereotype. Being traditional is not bad but we need to settle in new requirements that are necessary to live in a society which is not bound to one planet only. Our rigidness may cause difficulty to teenagers to choose right at the point of their decision.
Teenage is a stage, when kids have to decide their future. They start to learn according to their choices that can be helpful in their practical life, so as parents we need to support them. I personally, try to support my daughter for her career studies. I never made up my mind for my children future in a specific field, I always appreciated them to research and find new ways of their interest. Although, they are still confused rather it is a right choice or not but whatever it is, I am with them with a parental advise that they need to stick at one field and do not wander on others directives.
In our society there are many free advisors are available in every walk of the life, everyone is a master and genius. They try to convince others that the way they have chosen is wrong. They pretend to be the only well wishers to young ones. They manipulate them to change their path. It is all done in a friendly way but still I think it is a forceful act that is not good. Our future will be bright if we apply our theory to our relevant field.
There are few who never influenced with their contiguous and felt free to live according to their thoughts. This category of geniuses brings best for themselves and worlds as well. Listening to your inner voice is as necessary as all other necessities of our life. Our inner, never betray us in our life if we listen it carefully. There is some confusion in inner voice and manipulation and we are the only ones who can differentiate them. All we need is to judge ourselves, who we are and what is our requirement from life. We should set out goals and act accordingly. Being focused and consistent brings success although it is a bit late; it is better late. Patience is the key of victory.
The final words for today, we should provide our children an environment that brings them a vast choices. They should not be limited to some boundaries. On the other hand a parental restriction of right or wrong is must; parents have their experiences to share. Youngsters may apply those experiences in their way. So that they could grow and flourish in modern society and make our world more beautiful and safe; free of arms, hate, drugs, terrorism and all negative things.