EMOTIONAL FRUSTRATION

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Frustration was once known as anxiety and found in disturbed people only. Those who suffered with it were treated sympathetically by normal people. These days it becomes a routine in life of many around the world.  Though people living in developed countries face less of it but still it is there with different shapes. There is a global reason of uncertainty and disturbance between countries. Global warming, race of nuclear power and Socio-economical conditions are also one of the reasons.
These big words were once meant to think tanks and superior head of countries but now media shares each and every news of the world to public. The positive aspect of this is “awareness” i.e. requirement of the time. But the negative impact is, sometimes a little incident affects a lot to a common person.  For example, if there is a planning of coup to some country and there is severe rift between them. In this situation a soft hearted people obviously take it very seriously. The reason behind it that we have seen so many wars and their destructions and a normal person is not in favor of any more. This is all power and number game and nothing else. Such disturbing news raises the frustration and anxiety all over.
Natural disasters, oppression towards humanity and discriminations are also a part of our daily news. There are rift of unfair distribution of boundaries, people are having financial crisis and cruelty is at the peak. Innocent people are being murdered in café, educational institutions, worship  and at other public places. Selfish people are not limited to one place they spread their feet all over the world. No country is safe. Developed countries have power and they deal with all but people of developing countries are facing terrorism, target killing, uncertainty and financial crisis in their vicinity. This is also supporting frustration.
Population, pollution and poor economic situation are also affecting people in many developing countries. People are moving to urban areas for better financial chances. This situation is very alarming in the cities of such third world countries. It affects a lot where people are more and state resources are not enough to manage them all. In such circumstances, first of all, traffic is becoming a mess. We are witnessing a daily traffic jam even in side roads. Long queues are and noise pollution is a routine that increasing stress in people.  Earning opportunities are also less as compare to population.  This environment is affecting in a way where crimes are increasing and creating more emotional frustration in young generation.
In developed countries, life is busy and everyone has time handling problems in daily routine. People try to resolve their problems by putting their responsibilities to various service vendors. Latest technologies lead us away from our loved ones; mobile and internet (social media) is a necessity but people waste a lot of time apart from their job.  We have day to night entertainments that weakens the binding between families. This environment allows selfish people to attract and mislead the new generation by leading them towards bad practices.
At family level, people are away from each others; they love to meet the persons those are only favorable to them.  Sometimes we ignore our loved ones in the race of success and achievements. This ignorance is also making our young generation frustrated, illusionist and day dreamers. It is not a healthy thing for a growing kid. We should pay attention to our children in a way to develop their personality. Improving living style is not limited to good food, standard schools, brands and luxury vacations. Personality is something that makes a person good or bad in a society. No matter in what situation we are living we can educate our children to be a good citizen.

 

In my view, a change at family level is more effective to build a sensible society. Organize your each day in a suitable routine; wake up early, spare a little for exercise, do yoga or meditation. Keep an eye on your diet plans, think positive and do not interfere in others lives. A little prayer according to your believe is also a wonderful idea for the purity of soul and mind. Of course, we all are not having equal opportunities in our lives but one thing is free of cost, i.e. positivity. This will keep you away from worries and frustration. We should not see others to change but take a start at yourself, be a role model and do care about kids as they are the future of human beings.
Best regards.
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MANIPULATIVE GAMES

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Technology is everywhere and we are blessed to be the part of this modern age. This is not the end and there are vast opportunities ahead. Machines and equipments make our life easy. We can approach to anybody around the world within seconds. Powerful machines are ready to solve our all problems. 3 D printers are helping to build from small instruments to sky rises. Internet is there to spread information, knowledge and entertainment. Smart phones replace many types of equipment. Watches, calculator, calendar and physical trainer are required for status show off only.
In the age of growing technologies and if I not exaggerate, everything seems possible in this world. Few years back, children were bound to go outside to play soccer, cricket, base ball, badminton and tennis in large playgrounds and streets. Large boards and tables were also required for Pool ball, Luddo, Carom and table tennis. Then time changed, and games are available in smart phones and in access of all kind of people. Old people can now also participate and enjoy any game at their smart phone. If you are not familiar to rules of any games even then you can learn it at internet. Cards are also available with their magnetism.
Time is changed and so are the games. Now there is a lot of addition as compare to traditional games. Entertainment is there according to the mood; amusing, brainy, adventure, suspense and funny apps are available at digital play stores. But in recent times we observe a change that many manipulative games are also available at internet. These are promoting inhuman culture in growing minds. Fresh ones are their target to capture in this trance.
Blue whale game is one of the recent times problem that is in my view is gaining popularity. It is reported that many innocents has been targeted by it and loss their lives. According to the reports it is developed by a psycho who is being sentenced for a small period. This game has 50 levels and it challenges to dare an uneven act and final level challenge is suicide attempt. People are worried for their children. Kids in teenage want their privacy and avoid family members.
I think the situation is not beyond controls. Family bonding is the only solution to this problem. Parents and siblings are best guide to avoid such fake entertainment. Families should spare an hour in night for meeting where all members should discuss their daily routines with each other. People should not avoid sharing with the younger ones; try to elaborate the situation according to their knowledge. This sharing will bring them close to elders and they will surely discuss their routines with them. As an elder, people must watch the routines of their children. Any unusual routine will be an alarm and that should be taken care of. Children are future of mankind and most precious ones. We should build a confident and friendly atmosphere in our homes where everyone feels comfortable to share their all activities.
Games should be for entertainment, knowledge and fun; do not allow them to kill anyone. Such game developers are mentally sick and spreading their sick ideas to others. We should have a confidence to defend against such circumstances. Children and teenagers should also show a gesture of intelligence; one frustrated and psycho cannot change your minds. No need to be desperate in any situation; think positive and quit
such manipulative games at early stage. Humans should not handle with remotes in other hands. There is no psychiatric issue in it; we allow them to capture our thoughts and we have power to refuse the. Sometimes people also relates themselves with others problems and visualise themselves at someone else place. Visualisation is good to bring new ideas in life but excess of everything is bad. Many times reality is different from imaginations. If we are positive towards life, focused and mentally strong, no one can delude us.
Be positive and strong and defeat such selfish developers in any colour they are; blue or white, whale or shark. Defeat them and grab the all gold stars from your life.
Good luck and best regards.

SELF GROOMING

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Change is a necessary element of our life; it has a vital affect on seasons, people, days and nights. Many people are revolutionary in nature and innovative in their lives. These type of persons love to change themselves in a perfect way. This urge of change and perfectionism is the key to success and lead us to the way of self grooming. These words like self grooming, revolution, ambition etc are undoubtedly big ones to say but when we bring them to our lives, they need not many efforts from a willing person.
Introduction of world to a new born baby is the people, their behaviors, atmosphere and surroundings.  Sometimes these things and atmosphere is good, many time bad and a few time awesome. We absorb our atmosphere in us and show our actions being manipulated with these surroundings. These are afterwards called our habits; apart from fact that these are good or bad.
After passing a little time in this, many of us go to school, high school, colleges and universities. These institutions and company of friends also influence us in various ways. This age is the second stage of learning. We grab much useful knowledge in this age. People from different backgrounds show the versatility of life to a learning kid. Friendship gives new meaning to recognize the personalities of others.
At the age of maturity or in practical life, everyone has a clear vision of self awareness. We almost know about our capabilities and can groom ourselves in a specific field. This stage is very important where we have to choose and decide a field for our entire life. Some get success easily and many have to struggle throughout their lives. There is one more category that at firstly choose the wrong way but upon realizing the mistake, jump into their loving place and live happily ever after.
Life is not easy for all, many people face difficulties in their lives. This is the time when we need to groom ourselves for new challenges. Many of us are misfit in our professions or jobs. For example a person love to sing but dragged to a 9 to 5 job. We can observe such situations with different styles in everyday life.  Now what can we do? No problem at all. Nothing is impossible. Do not leave the field, no need to show it your back. A true one is always judged in crisis. Make yourself as right choice; mold yourself according to atmosphere. Take it as a challenge; groom yourself by studying related literature or ask a senior for help. Once we overcome the situation we can easily keep along our hobbies.
Grooming is something that is related to success only, no matter what you are doing. It is a bossy job or a repair work. When we enjoy our work and try to improve it; it will definitely pay back in shape of appreciation and success. One more thing is necessary is steadiness; a constant struggle is a key of success. Self grooming needs no institutions or study; one can also groom itself by through observation. People and society is also a huge institution to learn.
Self grooming is not limited in subject; studies and learning is not all. By grooming ourselves we portray our personality, skills, attitude, potential etc. Change of dressing is also a part of it; we should match to our atmosphere. A serious job require serious and formal dressing and behaviour. Looks also matter in presenting yourselves. A little touch up changes the entire personality. We should also move towards latest trends and styles. This little changes keep your mind fresh ans active.
Although, there are an example of rigid people who think they are good in all way. They rarely want to change their lives and bind themselves to their so called principles. If we see some kind of success in such person, that is absolutely luck and nothing else. Most of them are not favorite one to any. Man is a social animal and mostly socializing at social media these days. Now, fact is that head counts at friend list and likes matter a lot. Only adaptable people achieve the friendship of many. So, we need to change and groom ourselves according to the time and atmosphere.
Always try to do good for others and do not think for rewards or appreciations, a true happiness is a reward, a true friendship is a reward and a good change is a reward. Groom yourself and feel happiness in your life.

Best regards.

WATER SCARCITY

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We have almost 2/3 of our planet covered with water but still we are facing water scarcity. Well, it is a shortage of fresh drinking water that is required to fulfill our nutrient values and health. According to various surveys around 1.2 billion people are facing this situation. At a rough count it is almost 1/5 of total world population.
People living in urban and remote areas, both are facing the problem in different ways but in remote areas it is worse. Mostly in remote areas, there is no water filtration system available to fulfill their needs. This severe condition constrains them to use polluted and unhygienic water from pounds, canals and rivers. Ponds appear with rain water, it is a bowl shape or pool type area that collects the water in rain season. Both animals and humans drink and use the water from same place leading them to different dieses. An old way of water source is to dig a well for fresh water but it is not much common these days due to the fact that availability of fresh water is very deep.
In urban areas, it is in different way. Population is growing and officials are helpless to fulfill their basic needs. People living in main cities are facing the crisis and those who are well off, purchase fresh water at higher rates. Poor ones are in bad condition they have to wait in lines for their turn to get a bucket of fresh water. Sometimes they quarrel, pull, injure and say harsh words to each other. It is due to the frustration building within them, they have no way to release it out.
It is not a situation that came at once, our master minds were quite aware of it for long. Many of us heard the sentence that “third world war will be fought at water resources”. These think tanks are geniuses and they started to prepare weapon for wars and ignored the real problem. Although research work is on its way to find new ways to convert sea water into fresh water but it is still at limited level. Our heavy budgets are still focusing on military power and new missile and arms.
Well, it is a matter of existence of mankind and our future obviously. How can we ignore it? We are trying to reach different planets and not using the available resources. It is an age of science and technology so why not to emphasis on main issue. I am sure there is no hurdle in it except the power game. We have many raw minds that are actually capable to overcome the problem. What we need is to start this job at grass root level. Countries start big projects for the betterment of their people like huge dams etc but according to the scenario, it is required to spread it at low level with controls over it.

People are thirsty in most part of the world and we should take initiatives to help them. Big minds should come forward and facilitate them. It is all around the world; either it is Africa or Asia. Organizations like WHO are not enough, they are doing their best but numbers of victims are increasing day by day. Some more efforts are requirement of time. I request to cut the budget for huge and destructible arms and invest it at the betterment of people.
Best regards.

CHOOSE YOUR WAY


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Actually, our brought up is a little bit complicated and tricky in South Asia, parents put their incomplete desires to their children in shape of toys or fun based activities. Children learn and absorb from their surroundings. Whatever parents provide them, it made up their minds accordingly. Our incomplete desires or unachieved goals are like we want to be a doctor, singer, architect or engineer but circumstances lead us to be a banker, teacher or a 9 to 5 employee . So we made up our mind to complete this ambition in our children.  As parents, we manipulate our children to promote their interest according to our will. These activities draw the attention of a raw mind of a growing kid and later they became keen to this behavior.

Well, I am not saying that these are not good activities; sometime it is necessary but not always. My concern is that we make them restricted within few things and set patterns. I think that is the reason in third world, that thoughts are stereotype.  Being traditional is not bad but we need to settle in new requirements that are necessary to live in a society which is not bound to one planet only. Our rigidness may cause difficulty to teenagers to choose right at the point of their decision.
Teenage is a stage, when kids have to decide their future. They start to learn according to their choices that can be helpful in their practical life, so as parents we need to support them. I personally, try to support my daughter for her career studies.  I never made up my mind for my children future in a specific field, I always appreciated them to research and find new ways of their interest. Although, they are still confused rather it is a right choice or not but whatever it is, I am with them with a parental advise that they need to stick at one field and do not wander on others directives.
In our society there are many free advisors are available in every walk of the life, everyone is a master and genius. They try to convince others that the way they have chosen is wrong. They pretend to be the only well wishers to young ones. They manipulate them to change their path. It is all done in a friendly way but still I think it is a forceful act that is not good. Our future will be bright if we apply our theory to our relevant field.
There are few who never influenced with their contiguous and felt free to live according to their thoughts. This category of geniuses brings best for themselves and worlds as well. Listening to your inner voice is as necessary as all other necessities of our life. Our inner, never betray us in our life if we listen it carefully. There is some confusion in inner voice and manipulation and we are the only ones who can differentiate them.  All we need is to judge ourselves, who we are and what is our requirement from life. We should set out goals and act accordingly. Being focused and consistent brings success although it is a bit late; it is better late. Patience is the key of victory.

 

The final words for today, we should provide our children an environment that brings them a vast choices. They should not be limited to some boundaries. On the other hand a parental restriction of right or wrong is must; parents have their experiences to share. Youngsters may apply those experiences in their way. So that they could grow and flourish in modern society and make our world more beautiful and safe; free of arms, hate, drugs, terrorism and all negative things.

Best regards.

STREET CHILDREN

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We observe many children wandering in streets, they collect many re-usable items out of the trash for their earnings or beg all the day long. According to statistics, the count of these children has been reached to almost 1.2 million in Pakistan. I think the count is more as we observe no survey in past many years. Approximately all of them are illiterate and homeless, due to many circumstances. Most of them are the children of homeless parents and lot are run away from their homes, escaping from impropriate, abusive and violent attitude of their parents or guardians.

How one soft and sympathetic hearted person can oversee these barefooted children; doing work apart from the severity of the weather, either it is hot or cold? They have no time to play, many beggars play and enjoy with each other while traffic signal is green and start to work as it turns into red. They have been deprived of all the basic needs i.e. food, cloth, education, home and better future. Whenever we look at their eyes it seems they are questioning or demanding the rights they deserve. They must have many questions on their minds but have no way to express them and they are silent. Their silence is dangerous which will absolutely burst out distinctly and society has to bear the consequences.
They never protested for their rights. They never ask authorities to solve their problems. Whenever they see our children availing all the benefits and enjoying their lives, these questions surely pinch them deep in their mind;
Why we can not avail all these happiness?
Why we are living without a roof under the open sky?
 Who is responsible for our uncertain future?
Will there be any change in our miserable life?
Why I cannot play with toys?
Was I born to laborious work only?
We do not have answers to these or we are avoiding doing so. We celebrate the days and write many things about them but practically, there are few who come ahead to solve their problems. According to me, as many of us agree, they need at least basic education. Government authorities can manage it properly because they have a lot of resources and funding for this reason. But there are many complications with government machinery. They have many tactics for delays and political hurdles involved everywhere. So people should come forward to help such children.
As these street children are financially supporting their families and cannot afford to pay the fee or give time for proper schooling. The persons or private organizations, who are interested in this noble cause, can help them to teach at evening timings. They do not need difficult syllabus to teach, all needed is to familiarize them with books reading and writing skills. Most of them are grown up children and difficult to patronize. They are hard to handle but not impossible. There are many examples of such fake organizations those are not interested in the welfare of children. Their entire motive is just to attract funding from all over the world. That is an awful situation; we should work for such children with a true heart.
street3They have already been dragged into a world where they face abusive language, exploitation and bullying by sick minds. They have lost their identity and dignity. By giving them support we can avoid crimes, be begging, child labour and many illegal and unethical works. It is beneficial for not only to those ignored children but also it will be fruitful for our society.

 

Education is the only solution that can help them to grow and flourish in the world. There must be many masterminds hidden in between them. World require their abilities; do not perform this job for namesake do it as charity and charity begin at home. Find someone around you, look at his/her responsibilities and make the priorities in this regard accordingly. If someone is well off, should provide them with a loan as a support for their education. Another way to prop up is to provide the child with technical education so they can earn in a respectable way.
Best regards.

 

EUNUCH – STRUGGLE FOR RECOGNITION

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Recently, I have watched T.V drama on “ARY digital” with the title “Khuda mera bhi hai” meaning “God is mine too”. The subject was acceptance of eunuch as a child and a citizen. Most of the civilized countries have no issues in this regard, people with this gender are living a satisfied life there but in Asia, this gender is not treated as they deserve. We have a discriminatory attitude towards them. There was an era when they have respectful status in the palaces of Mughal emperors.
In our society, a lot of people want to hear this sentence at the time of delivery “congratulations, it is a baby boy”, there are few who are satisfied with a baby girl but situation worsens when it is the third gender. Most of the parents refuse to accept such a child right after the birth. They think that it is shameful to accept them and society will make fun of this incident.  People assume such parents as unhealthy in a way that they are unable to give birth to a boy or a girl.
This is a tradition since centuries in South Asia; many illiterate people blame mothers for the birth of a girl or a eunuch. They also praise the mother for a baby boy. People have no concern with science and research; they have their sayings, stereotypes, and customs to follow. It is not only with those who are living in remote areas but many so-called civilized and highly educated minds do not want to accept this reality. These children are mostly given to a “Guru” (an old transgender taking care of such gender). The problem starts from this stage; they are being spoiled and thrown away as a waste for their whole life.
Gurus have a tradition to train such children for dance and singing. This training has no concern with perfection it is just for the sake of fun. When these children grow up, they dance and sing in streets and on several occasions. Once, it was a tradition to call them at weddings and birthdays. Many people think that their prayers and blessings are pure and will be accepted soon, so they called them at time of birth of a baby boy.  This tradition is rare these days and eunuchs have mostly become beggars. You can observe many of them with makeup and with ladies’ outfits at almost every traffic signal. They have a different style of begging, normally they keep blessing you until you gave them some money but it should be a big currency, they are not contented with coins. Many times, I witnessed that they throw the charity back if they are not happy with the amount. There are many who still dance and earn their living but a lot of them are involved in crimes and unethical activities. It is obvious, such ignored and discarded people can easily be trapped and used by criminals. Hence, they are now involved in so many other illegal activities.
Problem is the recognition of such children in our society, parents who dare to accept such children are often humiliated by others. They would make fun of them for being supportive of the eunuchs. These children are being treated as aliens, humiliated in our society. No parents like them to play with their children or be their friends. Though’ there is an appropriate word to call them i.e. “ Khwaja Sara” which was basically a title for them back in the Mughal dynasty. But, they are being called with different abusive names like “Khusra”, “Na-Mard”, “Heejra”, “Chakka” and many more. Their school and college fellows make fun of them without any reason and they are not supposed to react against such behavior and are demanded to bear the bullying silently.
Although we observe some change in our society that people are educating their minds in this regard but still there is a lot to do. It is such a pity this gender was never considered officially until recently when they were finally acknowledged as lawful citizens and can now apply for National Identity card.Eunuchs are now aware of their rights and protested several times for their demands.
The T.V Show that I mentioned above took a brave and bold step towards a selfless society and awareness. They motivated people to come forward and accept all the realities attached to this creation of God. They are not being thrown away from anywhere; they are as real as we are. Acceptance will make them beneficial for them and for society as well. They have a mind and feel like others; they can be a creative one, worker, sales rep., businessman, teacher, researcher, even manager and much more. All we need is a change in our perspectives. Once again, well-done team ARY Digital.

 

Best regards.